How to Become Responsible and End the War in Your Life

Part 4 of 4 for the series “I am the world.”

Do you think you're separate from everyone else? Are we individually unique with “me over here” and “you over there?”

My Dad and I use to have a relationship that was like night and day, they just didn't go together. I use to judge him for how negative he was, his poor “I can't do it” attitude and how unsocial he was to everyone.

On top of that I'd always have extreme feelings of anger, hate and irritableness one minute, then the next minute I'd be O.K. with him.

If you read the pervious parts before this article, then you would of seen Julia's personal growth from being a victim to taking responsibility for her life. She would always blame her Mother, family and society for all of her problems and less than pleasing results.

However, after an intervention (Lao), she came to understand that her tangible world was a projection of her inner thoughts and feelings. As she went inside to change herself, the world around her started to change.

I know..it sounds mystical, doesn't it? However, have you ever noticed that when there is a problem you are there?

War broke out across the Middle East. How did you know about this problem? You were there to hear it. Your Mother-in-law is senile when you're around. How do you know? You are there.

Nothing is your fault, but everything is your responsibility. Take a look at the word responsibility. “Response-Able”. On some level you always have the ability to respond to any situation no matter how near or far the problem is.

You can't really change the world. All you can do is change yourself. I believe that's how we all can become totally “response-able” for our lives.

Have you ever tried to change someone? Correct their actions or behaviors? What ended up happening? You were probably met with resistance.

That was the first approach I took with my Dad. I didn't like how he was and he just flat out annoyed me. Therefore, logic tells me that something is wrong with him, so I should try to correct his behavior.

For example, when my Dad would bring the black rain cloud out and get all negative about how the government is ripping us off, I would react by saying something like, “Dad! Why are you always so damn negative. Do you hear yourself!?! Stop voting for your government then!

My reaction to his negativity created resistance. He would react in turn by saying something like, “why I'm always on his case” or he would defend his point. As a result, more resistance and separation were created.

What if I took a different approach with my Dad? What if I responded to my Dad by owning the qualities I don't like about him and changing those inside of me? What would happen?

I have come to an understanding by studying theology and science that my circumstances and world are nothing more than my inner unconscious thoughts and feelings being projected out onto others.

Carl Jung calls it the “Shadow Self”, which basically says that your deepest unconscious issues shows up as qualities in other people.

I see this Truth as very good news because it acts as a measuring stick for how you're creating your world.

If you see the world as dark, unsafe and out to get you. Then, you have unconscious issues with-in yourself about your own security and worth.

If you see money as the root of all evil, then you have unconscious issues about your worthiness, abundance and prosperity.

If you see your Mother-in-law as a nagging bitch, then where are you a nagging bitch in your life?

I'm happy to say that my Dad and I are best friends today. I ditched the idea that I should change him. Instead, I changed me.

I evaluated and brought truth to my life on where I'm negative, have a poor attitude and annoying. It took a lot of courage to do this because none of us like to demoralize ourselves. However, I wanted to explore the possibility of freedom, so I went searching.

What I found was those qualities about my Dad that I disliked where present qualities about myself in other areas of my life. I understood that what I didn't like about my Dad were unconscious issues that I didn't like about myself.

Bringing those issues to light dissolved those problems. Our relationship began to change. My Dad became more understanding and positive. I didn't feel anger or hatred towards my Dad anymore. I felt love and I saw a oneness between me and him.

I was free.

All I did was change me. Does this mean that if you find and heal the war and violence inside of yourself that the war will stop in the Middle East? No, probably not.

You will be free though. What will change is your reaction to war and the chains to fear and insecurity will be cut. You'll be in a position to respond, rather than react and feed into the fire of fear.

Maybe this new position of responsiveness will enable you to influence others to change themselves. Then, all of a sudden you have a chain reaction. One person turns into 2. Two turns into 4. Four persons turns into 16. Sixteen people turns into 64 and so on.

Soon enough the collective human consciousness transforms into a new direction. How could external violence and war continue on in the world if the majority population heals the war inside themselves and directs their energy toward peace, abundance and love, rather than fear and insecurity?

So, how do you become free? How do you bring out those unconscious issues to end the slavery from your mind?

I'm not hear to re-create the wheel and the best resource to this date has been something called, The Work, from Byron Katie.

She has a process called, “Judge Your Neighbor”, where you write down all the negative thoughts and feelings towards anyone in your life, discover its truth, determine your reaction believing the story, understanding who you would be without that story and finally turning it around to other possibilities.

The point of self empowerment comes the second you discover that the perceived negative situation is just not true. Then, the icing on the cake is when you discover all the other possibilities and meanings to the situation. At that point you are free.

I highly recommend you check out the resource for yourself. Put it to use. Best of all it's free!-- The Work

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Related Articles:

Part 1-- It Takes One to Know One

Part 2-- The Cause of All Suffering

Part 3-- You Attract What You Are

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